You’re in a hospital room, supporting the soon-to-be parents of a newborn baby boy. The husband is holding the hand of his wife, their hand being held by the nurse: a support train. The others in the room take note, latching their hands together: a tangled mess hoping to ease tensions.
You’re walking, alone, getting errands done. On a mission, you’re hoping to accomplish your errands in a timely manner. Then, you see it: a young male and female holding hands. You’ve never seen them before, and figure you won’t see them again, so you continue onward. They looked innocent enough.
The reasons for holding hands run on: showing support, to calm, to be affectionate, offering safety and security, showing unity, etc. The two examples I provided are just the tip of the iceberg, yet show the range of situations holding hands comes in handy. There is also a deeper purpose of holding hands, known sometimes to those only partaking in the act. These purposes range from internal motives to eliminating or minimizing external judgements, and everything between. Then again, this could be me being over analytical. Similar to snowflakes, one could say that no two hand-holdings are exactly alike. Although there are variables going into the actual holding of the hands, I believe there is one similarity among them all: those taking part make a conscious decision to weave their hands together. With this holding true, the people involved want to be exactly where they are, while showing a sense of togetherness and peace. Maybe I’m the only one who feels a little giddy inside seeing others holding hands, as it provides me a sense of hope. When have you seen people holding hands? While seeing others holding hands, how do you feel? When you hold hands, how do you feel? I think it’s safe to say that when you’re holding hands, you feel safer than before. It takes a while sometimes, but your spirits are raised, knowing that someone is there, holding onto your life, with you.
You’re on a plane, sitting next to your loved one. He doesn’t like flying, and is extremely anxious about flying (stupid motion sickness). You reassure him he can squeeze your hand as hard as needed. Actually, there isn’t a point in saying this, as you anticipate it happening anyway: one of the perks of being in a relationship of 6+ years. As the safety rules are demonstrated and the plane starts moving, we both put a piece of gum in our mouth, hoping our ears won’t pop. The engines rev. My hand is even more at the ready, fully extended. He rests his head back, closes his eyes, and latches on. I look over to see he’s okay, and he is. I won’t close my eyes until we’re at cruising altitude. The wheels are up now, and his squeeze is getting tighter: anxiety. I gently rub his arm with my free hand, checking his pulse, and this relaxes him. We reach cruising altitude, and his gorgeous green eyes open. He’s fine. I’m fine. Everything is fine. We continue holding hands.
This happened during takeoff and landing, from Grand Rapids to Atlanta, then from Atlanta to Tampa Bay, and then on the way back. The least I could do was offer my hand for him, offering: safety, security, familiarity, a peace of mind, affection, and love. Such a simple gesture, yet signifying so much more.
- Brandon
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