I know this has been covered by many other venues of print in the past, and if you’re up on disability print/media, you’ve most likely been informed of the “rules” of interacting with individuals with disabilities. Although, I would prefer not to set aside more on this than has already been provided, let alone creating another list distinguishing an able-body vs. disabled view; I’m still confronted with just plain awkward moments in everyday situations. So, here I am, adding to the list of do’s/don’ts. This is not an exhaustive list but a good start.
Avoid offensive euphemisms and use person first language. As language terminology changes with time, I feel it’s important to understand there are commonly accepted terms of reference in any community, including the disability community. It’s not just about being politically correct. It’s about respect for the individual. For example, “people with disabilities” or “a person with a physical/visual/hearing/speech/cognitive impairment” is acceptable in most communities and uses person first language. On the flip side, terms like, wheelchair bound, restricted to a wheelchair, suffers from, retarded, crippled or any other euphemism to describe physical challenges are offensive to many people. Assumptions are dangerous. Don’t presume to know how someone feels or what is best for that person. If you are unsure, ask the individual what is best for the situation. People with disabilities have different preferences and what one is comfortable another may not. It’s perfectly ok to ask when unsure. If the individual is not comfortable responding, don’t be offended if the person declines your offer of assistance.
Talk directly to the user and speak normally. This may sound strange to others that know me but I see this from time to time. I have an attendant or friends with me often and it’s not uncommon for people to ask them a question before me. I usually have to make an acknowledgement and make direct eye contact before the other knows it’s ok to speak with me directly. Use common sense and follow the queues from the user. If that person has an interpreter or attendant assisting, it’s still common practice to face the user when communicating.
Be aware of personal boundaries. Many people use mobility devices. For example, I use a power wheelchair daily. Others may use a walker or cane. It’s important to remember these aids are often viewed as part of one’s personal space and by touching, moving, and leaning on (without the consent of the person) is not OK. Not to mention, there can be safety issues by doing any of these actions above.
- Elizabeth -
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